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About ckdatr

ckdatr started this conversation
Apr 8, 2008

Hi,

My name is Claire.  I have a beutiful two year old daughter.  I just left her father, who had a drinking and drug problem.  We never married but were together for 10 years.  I moved to San Francisco where my mother was staying on vacation.  She has helped me alot and thanx to her friends we've had a place to stay for the last 3 months.  It has been really hard to find work since I don't have anyone to look after my daughter, my mother works and I don't have any money to get her into daycare.  Her dad has given me $200 in the last 4 months.  I finally got Medi-cal but now the government is trying to get a hold of him and he's not wanting to deal with them since he has two other children and is working under the table.  I love his other children and his exwife and I are good friends.  He's getting his life back on track and is going to AA, so I don't want to destroy him.  I am going to be homeless very soon and my mother can't help me for long.  I need to find resources in the San Francisco area.  Things like free daycare, housing in exchange for babysitting, anything that doesn't rquire the government to need to contact my daughters father.

 

Help!

 

Thank you

Claire

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Sandav1
Aug 5, 2008

Hi Claire,

You are actually in a good city to find help with child care.  Is it safe to assume that since you are getting medi-cal for your daughter that you applied for support too?  They usually go together.  Even though you don't want to involve the county agencies, they are your best place to find valuable resources.  They can refer you to a lot of programs for single parents.  Women's shelters, daycare and job training.  Housing, food, further your education.

You are responsible now for your daughter and what you want her future to be.  The suggestion that Soulight gave you is a good one if you are fluent in the languages you speak.  Our court system pays very good for interpreters.

I use to work for law offices for my county and a few years ago my office paid $40. plus per hr. for interpreting.  The courts always need them too.  You could make  some bus. cards and go around to the law offices and court system and leave your cards to start with.

Also, you can use the computer to check everyday to see what jobs are available from the unemployment offices, county and city offices.  They seem to always need help in their accounting offices as well.

 I know this is not the case with you and your ex, but it is good to know,   if you are ever AFRAID of your mate and don't want to sign support papers to go after the absent parent, you can have them wave your signing.  A lot of women don't know that.  If you ever find yourself where you are afraid for yourself or your child, you can still qualify for aide without signing  any request for support papers from the absent parent.

I wish you luck Claire!  Let us know here at Aidpage how things turn out for you!........Sandav

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soulight
Aug 4, 2008

Hi ckdatr

Just a quick idea : I read your profile box in the upper left hand corner , and with your language abilities , I bet you could freelance as an interpretor. Just an idea , but it seems you could make your own hours and work from home.

 soulight

Oh , and here is an idea for housing that wouldn't require governmental assistance :

http://www.co-abode.com/

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